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Identify and break negative thought patterns, Susan had had a tough year, um, her work responsibilities

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had greatly increased and around the same time she discovered a profound betrayal in her marriage.

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As a result, her sleep had been bought for many months and she now felt overwhelmed and depressed.

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And her recent performance review meeting, Susan was crushed to hear that her boss thought her performance

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was slipping.

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She talked about it with her friend Ganti over their lunch break and was embarrassed when she began

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crying.

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My home life is a mess.

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I'm failing at work.

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I just feel totally inept, Susan said.

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As they talked about it, Kathy helped Susan consider aspects of the situation she hadn't considered.

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For example, she reminded Susan that she had a greater work responsibilities because she was so well

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regarded in her job and had been promoted accordingly.

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This conversation helped Susan gain a fresh perspective that boosted her mood.

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And this section I invited you to be like Susan friend.

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But to yourself, you can do this by really listening to what you're telling yourself, which will give

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you a chance to catch lies and half truths that have powerful effects on your emotions.

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It's much easier to spot the errors in someone else's thinking that in our own, if the roles had been

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reversed, Susan would have had no problem pointing out how much better Kathy was doing than she thought.

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We tend to have blind spots with our own thinking, so I will introduce a structured approach to monitoring

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and challenging our negative thoughts buttons.